Surviving the Terrible Twos

Posted by Amanda Grace on February 13, 2015

There’s nothing at all nice about the terrible twos (but, as a mom, you can only expect much, much more ahead.) Pint-sized temper tantrums and know- it all attitudes are all a part of the fun that you will begin having with your little one somewhere around age two. Some children actually begin these behaviors a few weeks before the big number two rolls around, while other kids are informed of their role as a two-year old a bit later. No matter when it happens (and yes, it will happen,) make sure that you are prepared.

What are the terrible twos? If no one has already told you about the terrible twos you are in for quite the surprise. The terrible twos is a developmental stage that your baby will experience sometime around the age of two. This developmental stage brings forth a baby that you do not know, a baby who wants to  be independent, always right and ready to tell you just how he or she feels. The word ‘no’ becomes a favorite in your little one’s vocabulary, and meltdowns can (and will) happen every time baby doesn’t get what is desired.

A few things to remember about the terrible twos:

  • First, recognize that your child is not trying to be defiant or upset you. This is a stage in a baby’s life that he or she is turning into a toddler who has learned so much with so much left to explore. It is your child’s way of asserting themselves. Your little one is growing intellectually, physically, and mentally. There is certainly a lot going on for baby. 
  • Toddlers can experience the ‘terrible twos’ for a short length of time or for an extended period. Ask some moms and they’ll tell you that it never ends! You can usually expect the battles to cease by the time your child reaches the age of three. 
  • You will lose your patience. You can say that you won’t all that you want to, but we all have our breaking point, especially when there are a thousand other things to do and you have a screaming, tantrum-throwing toddler who will not cooperate with anything that you offer. Do not beat up on yourself, but remember to remove yourself from the situation until you have cooled down. A mommy or daddy time-out is okay, and very much warranted during this stage of parenting.

Dealing with the Terrible Twos: Your Survival Guide.

It is a very trying time when the terrible twos arrive. But, you can get through this year with at least part of your sanity. All parents go through it. Find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. Here are a few additional tips for dealing (effectively) with the terrible twos.

First, create a schedule or a routine (if you haven’t already) so that your toddler knows what to expect at what time. This includes breakfast, nap, activities, lunch, etc. Having a routine in place will certainly help make those meltdowns less drastic.

You can also help deal with the terrible twos a bit better by learning how to set limits. Toddlers will do as much as they are allowed to get away with, and most of the time they know who will go for what. Make sure that you stop your toddler in their tracks by setting limits. Do not threaten; take action. Children quickly catch on to absent threats.

It's also important to remember not to give into those tantrum. It can be hard, especially when you have so much to do or are out in public among people. However, giving into the tantrum only teaches your child that if they throw a fit long enough they will get their way. Stick to your plan of action if you want to survive the terrible twos.

You should also take the time to plan consequences for bad behaviors from your toddler. Time-out is one of the most effective consequences for children in this age bracket. You can also take their favorite toys away, take away their favorite cartoon or something similar. 

Give your toddler choices, but make those choices limited. One or two options is plenty for a two year old. Your child is much more likely to respond in a positive manner if you offer them a choice rather than force them into something. They still feel like they are in control.

The terrible twos are something that all parents will experience. With this information you can be better prepared for the terrible twos. use it to your advantage.