Are You a Snowplow Parent?

Posted by Ruby Gray on January 28, 2015

Tiger Moms might as well head back to the jungle and Helicopter parents should fly back to the hanger because there's a new parent in town that will plow you over.

Just like a snowplow these parents will clear everything and everyone in the way of their kids. They aren't the least concerned for those they left in a heap by the side of the road.

Snowplow parents constantly force obstacles out of their kids path. Like a Helicopter parent they micro-manage every aspect of their child's life, but they don't hover over them they plow ahead. They're not above being as aggressive as the Tiger Mom, but will sometimes try a subtle approach first.

You've seen these snowplow parents, they're the ones who push their kids to the front of the line and then look innocently back at you like they have no idea why you're upset. Their kid always has to be the first and best at everything and if they aren't, it's always someone else's fault. They blame the school, the teacher, the weather, an illness or injury, and of course your kid. 

They snowplow their way into school and demand extra courses or special allowances for their kid right after sending a note the day before to excuse their kid from the homework assignment because they didn't agree with the approach. They harass and brow beat friends, family and co-workers until they are positive their Girl Scout has sold the most cookies. They will do their child's homework for them so they get a good grade. They'll bribe the coach for more play time and then scream at the ref and charge the field for making a call against them. They've even been known to fill out their kids college application and call a professor to try and get a grade changed.

They think they are helping and are just forward thinking to insure their child has a head start on their future. Experts disagree. This type of parenting results in a less resilient child who won't take risks. They don't learn coping skills or mature enough to make their own decisions, handle failure or solve their own problems. They may rather quit than take second place.

Kids of snowplow parents end up thinking that if they fall someone will always be there to pick them up and never learn to get up themselves.